"Behavior in love shines through everything"

Ok so I am a guy. One that does construction so i fix things. So I always try to fix things I mean always. I talk to my girlfriend and I try to fix her problems.

She hates that I need to back off but I am not patient. I do listen and hear her but I do not back off and let her vent. I try and solve the problem.

I need to find out what the problem is or maybe I am to emotional and caring and that is a fault. The nice guy disease. It kills all relationships with the intelligent people. There needs to be control of them and control of many things.

Now how do I figure it all out. Can I figure it all out. Or do I have to just learn to leave it be and move on. What the hell is going on with my thoughts and thinking. Is it just a bad habit or is it just me. I am back to this again when I thought I figured something out.