"Behavior in love shines through everything"

All relationships are a tool for us to learn life's lessons. Relationship is define as a state of being related. We should learn from all relationships. Letting feelings get in the way will only cause you to miss the lesson that you could be learning. Emotions are a signal telling you wait there is something wrong with YOU. Your own body is telling you to ask yourself what is going on, lets figure it out.

If you love someone uncondictionally, you love them for who they are. Well who they are? That is a good question. If someone cheats on you is that who they are. Noone is saying to stay with them or to leave them. Everyone has a choice to do what they want. People change, everything changes so to love one uncondictionally you will love them even if they change.

Love should have no confines and should not depend on whether someone else treats you the same back. If you want to be treated different than change it, only you can. If you want to let one grow set them free, if they do love you they will always return. They will never judge you and you will never judge them..

Do you want someone forcing their beliefs down your throat? Do you want the government to tell you that you have to be an muslim or whatever. You do not want anyone to tell you how to live? On the other hand you want to control the relationship in how it is related to you. If you hurt you want them to stop what they are doing instead of figuring out why you hurt. Why should you control others when you do not want to be controlled? If you do not want someone to cheat on you than look for someone who beliefs the way you do. Cheating is not right or wrong. It is what it is, unless you want force someone to belief the way you do. If you belief in rules than find someone who beliefs in the same rules as you do. That is if you want rules. We all have are things to learn and the rules just make it easy to project our fears onto another person instead of facing them ourself.

Rules restrict us and fear binds us. You don't want to go to prison. You are in prison of your own making. Belief it or not, it is the truth. Afraid of being alone. Fear of not being loved. Fear they might hurt you. How can you have anything else but what you let into your own prison. You have the key to your prison and you can walk out whenever you want. You built the walls with what you let in. You will let things in but you do not want them to leave.That is being selfish and not loving. Is that what you want someone to do to you. Do you want someone to get you into their prison just so they lock you in also. Well it is your prison not their so they can walk out whenever they want, if you have not realized that yet.Than you get mad at them for walking out. You can walk out too, if you like, it is your prison and you have the key. Do not take it out on them.

If you want to be alone than don't let anyone in or don't leave. If one leaves your prison you do not be afriad you are alone because you made your prison. Why do you become scared or hurt or anger. Why?

The fears come from you not from the one you are in a relationship with. And only you hold the key to what you never wanted in the first place. You build it, they are your own walls. They are your walls noone elses. You build the walls one brick at a time and only you know how it was build so only you know how to take it down. We are all around to help you take down your walls just need to ask, listen and learn. And only you know how to get out of it, you just are not aware of it. How can you, it took years to build what you did, it might take year to take it all down. But once aware of the walls it will be alot easier to push them over.

With no walls everything can come and go for you to enjoy as it stops to teach you something you did not learn yet. Experience is the greatest learning tool so why build walls up to keep it out. Enjoy what comes into your life and enjoy it if it leaves for the learning experience might be given to another one to enjoy. Do you love to share something that you love with someone else so they can experience what you have learned. So if you want to share it why do you want to hold on to it. Why not let someone else enjoy your expereince by letting the thing that you experience to move on.

You can be free, you just have to see you walls before you can start to take them down but don't judge me or project your feeling on me just because you do not want to come out of your prison with me.